Wednesday, January 5

Into The Ordinary

I have spent so much time assuming things about other people based on their looks.  He must be an intelligent metal head since he's wearing all black and has a long, reserved pony tail.  She must really want to fit in at the commune to wear that many layers of broomstick skirts..

The list will tread on and on until you stop it.  Do yourself a favor and reserve the haterade for family functions and the stitch n' bitch.  I lost an enormous amount of confidence in what I did, my choices, direction and needs when I focused so much on imaginary lives of strangers I thought I knew because of how they looked. 

Please don't waste your creativity on something that will destroy you.  And know that every time I say you I mean you and me.

8 comments:

  1. YES!!! We all need to check ourselves before we truly wreck ourselves! Judgment rarely has a positive outcome, for anyone! Thanks for reminding us all, Beej!

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  2. And as we say in France: "l'habit ne fait pas le moine" (the clothes do not make the man)

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  3. yea man, those stereotypes are rubbish. but i do believe that i have an instict for reading people. it doesnt have to be their clothes. it could be the way that they answer questions and other actions and reaction they have. if i judge people it's on their actions. and sometimes i just get hunches about people from their "aura" too. but i will tell you that if i like something that a person is wearing i am more apt to walk up to them and try and start a conversation. its an icebreaker and ussually signifies good taste. like how i cyber met you babydoll.

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  4. Thanks, Sarah, it's a reminder to myself as much as anyone else too. Jules, eloquent as always <3 And Sue, I get what you're saying.. I pay attention to mannerisms and quirks, too, to get to know someone before knowing them. What I'm trying to say here is just that it isn't beneficial to hate on people in this inner monologue however amusing it can get or how right we convince ourselves we are. Now giving out compliments and responding positively to things we like, that sounds kosher to me!

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  5. I really dislike stereotypes- nice post, girl.

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  6. "Do yourself a favor and reserve the haterade for family functions and the stitch n' bitch."

    I will have this in my head on repeat for awhile.

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  7. An important part of fat acceptance, for me, was to stop judging other people - including stereotyping them. It made my day a lot better, and made me feel better about myself, too!

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  8. Thanks Pixie. Aura, me too.. it is cross stitchin' it's way onto my brain. Lilac, thank you for sharing on how it ties into FA so easily (and can be most helpful!)<3

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